They say that love is all about taking risks; that you need to get out of your comfort zone in order to fully experience it. For some, the exact opposite is true, and it seems to work for them. Still, the novelty of a new love might wear out in a bit and you may have to rock the boat. Just be careful when you do this because you might approach things the wrong way. You can create waves without overdoing things because if there’s one thing that’s true: relationships do require work. You can’t expect things to be as fine and dandy as the day you met. Life throws trials your way and it’s how you deal with these things that determine the success of your relationship.

You’ve finally found this stand-up guy and you know that you have to keep things going because you just can’t find a love this amazing easily. Make bold moves because you actually get to forge a tighter bond when you share more experiences as a couple. Things will definitely pay off when you throw in great surprises every so often. First of all, you can’t bug your man for just about anything. Daily calls are fine, but some of you may tend to go overboard. His phone rings ten times every hour, and all these come from you. You’re already giving him the impression that you’re needy. Gather your stories first and give him a quick rundown. Learn to talk with your other friends as well because you do have other people to turn to. When you seriously cut back on calls, you make your man miss you just a bit more. Moreover, your man is more invested on listening to you because you somehow keep him guessing.

For many women, they also wrongly assume that they need to be in total agreement with their man at all times. Disagreements are good just as long as these don’t turn into huge fights. Obviously, you also have your own voice, your own thoughts and opinions. Be daring and speak what you feel. At the same time, let him know that you also value what he thinks. When your man knows that while you don’t see things his way but understand him, you will be able to altogether avoid big arguments. Instead, these debates could actually keep things interesting. In the end, he’ll value you for your intelligence and will seek your advice more often when you learn to raise good points.

Don’t forget to have a separate life as well. Sure, things can sometimes be about the ‘we’ thing, but then again, you also had your own life before you met him. Don’t lose yourself too much in the relationship and know that it’s good to miss each other at times. Let him enjoy his time with friends while you do the same thing. This somehow establishes trust because at the end of the day, you know that you’ll still look for each other. Relish on that emotion and know that you’re simply keeping things healthy for the two of you.