Sure, you broke up with your boyfriend, and now you don’t know what to do. You can’t blame the pain on anyone else. That’s because moving on is your job. Sure, someone might have treated you unfairly and this person has hurt you tremendously, but then again, how long will you wallow in self pity? On the flip side, are you going to deny yourself of a good cry?

Crying can actually be healthy so long as you know what your limits are. This is actually your body’s way of releasing stress. Aside from that, tears somehow attract sympathy. Your friends immediately rush to your side when they see you hurting. And while this is your issue to deal with, it’s good to know that there are people you can lean on when your emotions overwhelm you. Somehow, you don’t even need to say anything. Tears just beckon the others to reach your way and give you a hug, and that could already make a world of difference. Whether you’re a man or a woman, you deserve a good cry. Give yourself a few days to do this and then pick yourself up. Move on and see how you can rebuild your life.

You can still find some light in this emotionally difficult situation. Yes, you feel emotionally trampled and now, everything reminds you of your ex. It’s hard to do anything because you don’t want to remember. But the last thing you should do is live your life like a hermit. Allow yourself to look back and see where things had gone sour. You also have your fair share of mistakes. Hence, rather than blocking these things from memory, rehash what happened. Learn to look at the good times as well and see to it that you’ve learned the lessons from the bad times. Think about how you can do better the next time around because someone better will come along. Don’t think this is the last person to enter your life. Instead, know that you deserve to be with someone. You may not be ready for a relationship right now, but it will come when your good and ready.

So, get out from that self-imposed exile and be ready to see the world in fresh eyes. Get back to doing the things you love most. It’s all about rebuilding new memories, especially in places you used to frequent as a couple. Right now, see the world as your oyster and bring all your friends with you when you go out. So the next time you pass by the place, you remember you having fun with all your buds. Moreover, doing anything enjoyable helps your brain’s dopamine production. Take the opportunity to do something exciting because when you heal your mind, you heal your body. This is the first step to a better you. Don’t waste your life away and you’ll see that by actively seeking out a cure, you actually become better. If you remember the past even in the middle of the flurry, don’t block this off. Rather, know that the pain will slowly subside. Trust in that.