There are people who seem like such polar opposites that you wonder why they even get along in the first place. Here’s the secret: it’s in the way you manage the relationships that holds the secret to longevity. After all, these relationships, whether romantic or platonic, can be a minefield of arguments and misunderstandings. In the end, you become extremely disappointed with the things you’ve gone through. This is what you need to avoid at all costs. You need to nurture all the people in your life, and one way to do that is to always start on the right foot.

You know that the person is meant to be with you when you immediately click. You have amazing conversations and can connect on just about everything. The differences only reveal themselves in the later part but for many, a good start is already half the battle. Nonetheless, you shouldn’t change who you are just to please the other person. Stay true to your essence and if some people can’t take that, then maybe the relationship wasn’t meant to happen in the first place.

With your friends, partners, family, and loved ones, make it a point to fight less. There are bound to be misunderstandings, but that’s a big part of human life. You just can’t run away every time you don’t see eye to eye. Rather, try to be objective about it by proceeding with caution. Don’t use harsh words because no one deserves to be cussed at. If you want respect, then you need to learn to give it. Accept the fact that everyone has the right to his or her opinion. Other people may have their quirks, but then again, so do you. What makes yours more acceptable? Your friends have accepted you for who you really are and you need to do the same. Try to see things from their point of view to get a better understanding on the situation. It’s easier to keep your cool when you know where the other person is coming from.

More importantly, grab the opportunity to bond with them when you’re able to. Your work and relationships are a big part of your life. You wouldn’t want to dabble into something you’re not really interested in. Doing things is easier when you like the people around you. Just ask anyone because you’re more productive if you know you have a friend to turn to. Nurture these relationships by spending quality time together. Grab a drink and talk about what you’re going through. Respect what they say and listen to them when they talk.

Just remember that you can’t live like a hermit. You need to turn to someone when times get tough. Though you may be strong to handle adversity, it helps to lean on someone every now and then. Plus, you do learn more about life through other people. Their experiences will differ from yours and that’s something you can relish in because they’ll be able to give you a different view on things.