It would be nice to know that there’s one person out there waiting just for you. Some people think that this is the view of someone who’s completely in love with the notion of falling in love. Others prefer to live life on their own and let fate take its course. Whatever your views are, you are only ready to enter into a relationship when you are fine on your own. There’s so much more to life than just that one person you can share it with. Sure, you can always actively seek out someone else, but if you see this person as someone who completes who you are, then you can’t expect things to last.

Hearts melted when Tom Cruise said, ‘you complete me.’ But then, should this be the case for all men? Some would argue that this is the unhealthiest approach to a relationship. These people aren’t cynics. In fact, talk to anyone who has been in a long-term relationship. They would all agree with the fact that their partners never allowed them to lose their sense of self just because they were with someone else. You can all go gooey-eyed and romantic at the thought that you can have someone to depend on, and while you’re still in the honeymoon stage of your relationship, the idea gives you the shivers. Give it time because you’ll actually appear quite needy and dependent in the end.

When you enter in a relationship, you must realize that a person should love you for who you are. You must never hide your true self just to please someone else. As you go through difficult times, your true colors are bound to emerge. Your partner will be caught off-guard if you suddenly show a side he’s never seen. It’s not about being unwilling to meet the other one halfway. Of course, you must learn to compromise, but you must also learn to keep the things you value most. These are what make you the person you are now. A man is bound to respect and love you more when he sees that you’re comfortable in your own skin. Sure, this may sound like such a cliché, but remember, these things have continued to echo throughout the years because there’s truth to them.

When you don’t appreciate yourself well enough, other people will pick up on the signs. Sure, everyone has their off days, but as a whole, you must realize that there are a lot of things you can be grateful for. Accept the fact that a partner will certainly help, but also realize that you are already a complete person even without someone. You’ll soon see how people will gravitate to you better when you simply let go of all insecurities and live in the moment. Just know that the healthiest relationships are comprised of individuals who still have their own lives and still appreciate their differences. So, ask yourself this: Am I fine on my own? If the answer is yes, just see how things will start to fall into place. You’ll finally meet that one person who appreciates you despite your differences.