When people say actions speak louder than words, this really is true. How you angle your body, position your feet, or rest your arms can already clue people in with what you think and how you feel. In fact, there are more ways to talk with your body. The way you gesture with your hands, the pitch of your voice, the way you walk, your facial expression, and a hundred other tell-tale signs of our emotions and opinions.

In fact, man has recognized the importance of gestures. Case in point: the A-OK sign. People have felt the need to communicate with others using more than just words. Sometimes, you just need more clues to where the conversation is headed or if it should have started in the first place.

So, if you want people to know that they can actually walk over and talk to you for anything they need, you have to convey an air of friendliness. You have to look and be more approachable even before the conversation has started.  Smile if you want. In fact, this goes a long way in letting others know how you are as a person. Once someone has approached you, make eye contact and face your body towards theirs. This helps in making them know that you really are interested in listening to what they have to say.

Once a friendship has been established, show that you are also someone they can confide in. Once they start spilling their secrets and problems, turn you palm up when you face them. When your palm is facing up, you are subconsciously telling the other person that you are sincere with your intentions.  Acknowledge what they have to say by giving an occasional nod. This means that you are listening to their every word. If you are letting her speak before you share your advice, it means that you respect them and are willing to give them time to express themselves.

Establishing a connection is what matters when you want people to see you as an approachable person. Copy the way they position their head when they talk to you because this somehow means that you are in the same frame of mind. It also helps with the adjustment. When people see you as a flexible person, they are also more likely able to relate to you. Remember, however, to never over think your actions, else it may come out too contrived. Relax and just let the situation be your guide with what to do. When you do this, you will likely act properly.

So what is the secret to being more approachable? The most important ingredient is confidence. Making things look effortless will attract people to you. Avoid moving too much because this will only make you seem anxious and agitated. You simply have to relax your body, talk in normal speed, and take things a step at a time. The world’s greatest leaders have gained the respect of other people because they seem to know what they are doing even without saying anything. Emulate their actions, and pretty soon, you’ll have heads turning towards your direction.